Be With Someone Who Challenges You

In this episode, Hardin shares why it's important to be with people who challenge you to be better. #LifeOfABoss

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Transcript

Jason Hardin  0:02  
Yo, yo, yo, and welcome back to another wonderful episode of Life of a Boston podcast. I am your host, Jason Hardin. And I am excited and happy as always to be here. Because I love spreading game, you know, love giving out free game, I like seeing people do better. I like helping people create and find their own definition of success and live it to the fullest man, I like seeing people win. You know, I like the opportunities they create for themselves and others when they're winning. So it's all just just love when I come out here. And I do this because I worked with awards in so many ways. And it ain't even from the people I helped. It's from the world and universe, because someone got helped by somebody else that might be just like me, you know what I'm saying? So, so that's why I do it, you know, and today I want to talk about being with someone who challenges you, you know, I think I got a saying, and I said, a weak man will always want from a strong woman. You know, and, and I've seen it in so many ways and forms and I've seen it in so many relationships and, and I just want to explain what that means. And, and and it means that some people don't want to do better. Some people don't want to be better. Some people don't, not just don't want to be better, but don't want to be reminded of how much better they could be doing. You know, they don't want to be reminded of, of their shortcomings. And, and I'm not saying reminded by someone else, people remind themselves, and they don't want to be with anybody that reminds them that makes them remind themselves, that they're not where they want to be, they're not trying hard enough, or they're not doing as well as they could be doing had they exerted some of their potential, you know what I'm saying? Had they tapped into it anyway, and I think, think that, who we allow in our lives and who we allow ourselves to spend time with, especially a lot of time with, has to be the people that they want the best for us and the most from us, meaning not not want to take from us, but they want us to, to be who will really meant to be in life, you know, they have the greatest expectations of us and not out of out of necessity, but out of love. You know, I have always wanted to do better. I'm not gonna lie. I've always saw myself doing better. I've never, I didn't always want to do better because you know, you want what's action if your actions poor what you want, you know, if you want a bigger house, man, and you're not putting in more work, or you're not putting in enough hours or enough thought into into getting the finances of the resources required to get that bigger house, then you don't want that bigger house, if you want a nicer car and you're not doing what it takes to get a nicer car and you don't want a nicer car, if you want to make more money and you're not doing what it takes to learn how to get more money and to bring more money into your life, then you don't want more money. She wants always action. You know, so I didn't always want to be better, you know what I'm saying? I wasn't always taking that action to be better, but I always thought about it. You know, I've always, always wanted to always wanted to fantasize, if nothing else I wanted to fantasize about what my best life looked like. And I always did that I always fantasized and, and thought about and, and pictured exactly how I wanted to live, how I wanted to be thought of how I wanted to be seen how I wanted to be respected how I wanted to be a quote style, how I wanted to look, you know, I had a very clear a description of that of how I wanted to, to live my life but I had no idea how I would get there. You know, and and I didn't challenge myself as much as I as I could have had I've been around people that challenged me You know, I had I had I surrounded myself at an earlier age you know around people that did want the best for me and the best of me and and would encourage me to do that I'd be further along but I didn't recognize those people when I did have them so it's not even about having children.

Jason Hardin  5:00  
I haven't chosen that is I never saw that. You know, I never, I never wanted to challenge when I was younger, I'd never want, I wanted life to be easy. You know, I spent a lot of my, my youthful and unhelpful years. And when I say unhelpful, I mean unhelpful to myself and to my goals into my dreams, I spent, I wasted a lot of time, you know, not wanting to be challenged. You know, I wanted things the way I wanted them I wanted, I wanted to be respected, I wanted to have this and have that and be seen like this. And just like that, you know, but I didn't want to be challenged. And to have what you want, is always going to require challenge. And I didn't see that I wanted everything easy. I wanted everything fun, I wanted everything enjoyable, I didn't want to challenge myself, I didn't want to, I didn't want to push past the limits that I already had. I didn't want to read an extra book, I didn't want to spend an extra hour studying, I didn't want to go the extra mile with the extra credit, I didn't want to do nothing extra. I didn't want to challenge myself, I didn't want to break a sweat. If I didn't have to, you know, and I say all this to say that nothing was happening for me. That was getting me closer to where I wanted to be in life, when I had that attitude of not wanting to be challenged. So at some point, something switched in me that made me want to make made me want it to be challenged, made me want to to be uncomfortable, made me want to, to push my limits made me want to get tired and hurt and, and discouraged and, and, and made me want to fall and maybe want to get knocked out so I can see what it is to get back up. You know, and if I have what it takes to even do that, you know what I'm saying? So, so I think until I decided to challenge myself. Things didn't start happening, you know. Until I appreciated things being hard until I learned how to, to love, the struggle and the work that it takes to getting what you really want out of life. Things didn't happen. And that's why I say be with someone who challenges you. Don't run from those who expect more from you, who want the best for you and want you to create that for yourself. Not people that want to give you everything you know don't don't don't become attracted to people that make things easier for you. Don't become addicted to not having to put any effort into something. Be with someone who who, who challenges you but also leads by example, they challenge themselves. Be with someone who expects more from you because they expect more from themselves and they want you to expect more from you. My wife wants more from me, not because she wants me to make more but she wants me to want more of myself. Because she constantly pushes me and not not by nagging. But by showing me how she gets what she wants her to live. And I believe that I've gotten so many things that I've wanted that life is like, like I couldn't even identify some of the things that I didn't know I wanted until I see her doing it. The youth the energy, the the health, you know what I'm saying? The mental health the ability to be in the moment, the ability to appreciate and she has all those gifts and I didn't think I wanted that before. So I did what I had what I had to to get what I wanted to go and I've achieved damn near everything I think I've set out to to want to achieve. And I look at her and I'm like damn, there was so much more to want. She challenges me. She shows me things that I didn't know I wanted goals that I didn't know I wanted to achieve

Jason Hardin  10:01  
she shows me the benefits of things that I didn't know I value. I love being healthy. She shows me that going to the gym, adds to my love for being healthy. It gives me health in return. It gives me energy, stamina, mental clarity, mental health, all that comes together. And it comes because I have someone that challenges me. I don't run from people who are mentally strong and who are healthy. I don't want from people who know how to call me all my bullshit. People who know how to say Jason, you full of shit, that don't work that don't sound right. Do you know I don't like being around people who just laugh at my jokes. Even when they're not funny, you know what I'm saying? It's like, I like a challenge. I like to be better. There's never perfect, but there's perfection in how you want to live your life, you know, there's perfection and how you want to go about achieving the, the goals you set out for yourself. There's things that help you win, and things that could that, that, that help you lose. And being with someone who challenges you will always help you choose better for yourself. So I challenge all of you to start at least consider changing your circle, changing your your your relationships, making some adjustments, where you're, you're letting go of those that that kind of make it easy to not do nothing, to not improve, to not make changes to not to not to not work out not eat better. Turn a turn to not have better financial habits and in in financial literacy to not, you know, to not just you don't want to feed into your bad habits, you know, I want you to start looking at who helps you do worse, you know, who helps you not accomplish what you really want to accomplish in life and start getting rid of these people. So when I say get rid of them, it has nothing to do with them. It's all about you and your goals. And where you're trying to be in life. It has nothing to do with telling them that I'm gonna check them off, I'm telling them, they're not doing anything for me. Now you don't even have to do that. Just move on. Just start doing what you need to do for you. And start replacing people that don't want you to progress. People that don't want to see you doing better people that that are cool with you. Being self destructing, start replacing them with folks that really want you to win, start replacing them with folks who are winners. Who do what it takes for them to win. Who put in the work who put in the energy you put in the effort. Improve your circle and things will start happening, create relationships for people who are driven. People who are who are who are destined to be somewhere not because of what they say but because what their actions show. Someone who works out every day doesn't have to talk about being healthy. Someone who goes to work or get on their grind everyday doesn't have to talk about getting money. These people aren't doing the work. Get around people doing the work. Not just preaching the work but doing the work. Anyway, man, that's my message for today. I want you to take that and run with it. And like I said, Man Pete with someone who challenges you be with someone who calls you on your bullshit, be with someone who doesn't allow lies and confusion to win. Be with someone who doesn't who doesn't allow you to destroy yourself with someone who doesn't participate in your self destruction, at the very least be with someone who doesn't participate in your self destruction. When you're telling yourself negative shit they don't want to hear. They don't want to they're not going to join you when you're throwing yourself a pity party. They're not going to join you

Jason Hardin  14:53  
when you're when you're drinking and and and partying too hard and and being self just Okay, they're not there with you but when you're doing shit that you need to do for you they're right there when you're going to that class when you're when you're taking that that course when you're when when you're going to those network functions where you're trying to really push your idea and your vision there right there you with those kinds of people fill your circle with those kinds of people All right, anyway, man, I'm gonna let you go with that man if you guys want more sweet game follow me on all my social media man Instagram me and hard way hard and a follow on the podcast life of both podcasts on Instagram and check me out on Facebook. Check me out on Tik Tok at Jason Hardway Hardin and check me out send me a message on email check out the website life of a boss the partner life boss.net And get some product man support what we do man come to our events take our courses man. We've got a lot of things to get involved with. And please get involved man take action. Challenge yourself. Anyway, I love y'all. Until next time, remember that success is a lifestyle peace.